Happy New Month Good Workers,
I don't know if November is just another month or the start of something new for you. Things have remained the same for me, but with a few people in my life switching jobs, I have found myself thinking a lot about endings - how new beginnings are often inextricable from the grief of what once was.
I remember a line from a TV drama I was watching a few weeks ago, coincidentally, while I was trying to process my understanding of grief, that goes: "When you lose a loved one, you should mourn plenty. If not, the grief travels all through your body, and it bursts later."
This line resonated with me because it made me think of what it looks like to give the right amount of time to the grieving process - be it for a person, place or thing.
So I ask, are you taking enough time to grieve the ending of things?
For grief to run its course, it needs first to be acknowledged and accepted. For those who have switched jobs, you may experience the grief of the loss of your previous role; the people you worked with, the person you thought you'd be there, the goals you had. Even if things haven't changed for you, you may experience grief over the people who have left, the experience you thought you'd have or your expectations for where you'll be at this time.
Wherever you are, I hope you can take all the time you need to grieve, and I hope you feel lighter from it. Remember, you do not have to feel just one emotion at a time. You can feel the joy of new beginnings and the grief over what once was.
With love,
Toluwa